Family Dynamics

So your dad was the nurturer? Mm hmm. Yeah. Yeah. She worked at the front of the court? Yes. Somehow, I don't know how, some friend asked her to come and she would do some secretarial work at, um, At the court houses. Friend of the court, I thought. Right, and then they asked her to be friend of the court. So she did that for a while.

Where she helped families. And, uh, in [00:18:00] having troubles. And, uh, it could be very stressful. Some of the cases were very sad. I remember, uh, she was telling me about one woman. Um, I shouldn't, Say it, I guess, black woman, but back then blacks were particularly, uh, what do I want? Disadvantaged. Disadvantaged, very good.

And, so, this one black woman had five children. And, uh, they were having, she was having financial problems and that. Mother, mother said, you know, you've got five, she wasn't married. Mother said, now you've got five children by this man, why don't you make it right and legal and, you know, marry him. And she said, well, to tell you the truth, I, he just don't appeal to me.

Laughter [00:19:00] So, okay, and then he said, what was it like to be a twin? Well, you know, it just was, I didn't think that much about it growing up. It's just the way it was. But, I had a buddy all the time. We were, you know, we talked everything over. I, which became a problem when I got married, when I couldn't have somebody to help me decide something.

Uh, we'd check everything out together and make a decision on what we were going to wear. And she'd put the dress on and I'd look at it. And then I'd put it on so she could look at it. And, um, So, when she married and we separated, it was very hard for both of us to operate on our own. And I, and I remember him saying to me, You're not going to make me tink.

I mean, I just expected to do everything with him all the time and help him. Oh, Dad said that? Yeah. And, but in a nice way. I mean, I didn't, you know, he was just telling me that it was [00:20:00] You know, I need to be a little more independent and operate on my own. So there was a process there, a learning process, where I used to get headaches trying to make decisions.

So that was part of it, but uh, but it's been a very, I'm still so close to, all three of us were close. We used to write letters to each other every week. And with carbon paper, so we sent out two letters, yeah. Every week, we all, the three of us all consulted on everything all the time. Did you save the letters?

I saved a couple of them, but they were very personal. We discussed everything. And I, um, I don't know, I thought it would be interesting if we shared all the stages of what we were going through. Were you guys identical as kids? And did people confuse you two? Yeah, there's a question here. What is the funniest or [00:21:00] most unique thing that happened?

Because you and Tink are twins. Well, I don't know whether this is that funny or unique. But, um, I can remember, Tink was going to some sort of a formal party with a person. And with a man. And, uh, he came to the door with a cab waiting. And I go to the door and answer it and said, Oh, I'm, I'm ran late. I just wait.

I'll, I'll, uh, um, I'll change. You know, I was in just regular clothes. And he looked at me. He said, well, I'll go tell the cab to wait a minute. And then Tink came down the stairs all dressed. He was floored about that. And, uh, oh, and then one time, we used to get spankings. Disciplined with his spanking. And, I, apparently, Tink had done something wrong.

And, I was going up the steps. I didn't have much on. I had a lot of bare skin. [00:22:00] And, I remember Mother spanking my bottom or something anyway. And, I, I, tears came to my eyes. And, I said, but I'm Margo. Spanked me by mistake. Um. So, those are the only really two things that, uh, where there was confusion.